Santa, Send Me A Man For Christmas: Why Women Should Date More Than One Man To Find The ONE
It's Christmas and, somewhere, a woman is upset that she woke up and discovered that there was no great man under her Christmas tree. Santa has come and gone and, yet again, no man in sight. So, being me, I try to come up with a solution which is why I wrote The Ring Formula. Pick it up if you are one of the few women who hasn't put its principles to work to super charge your love life yet.
Let me be direct and to the point. Santa will not send you a man but you know that already. You will have to work to attract him into your life. Praying for a man and not putting in any work to realistically meet one will fail you more times than not. Don't get me wrong, I am a believer in every sense of the word but we all know that faith without works is dead.
James 2:14-18 says: 14 What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? 15 If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? 17 Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.18 But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works.” Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.
So, ladies, it is time that you start putting your faith to work for yourself. Yes, you are a great woman but how does that help you if great men have no access to you? The root word of emotion (required for love) is motion, remember? What if we took that approach to getting a job, losing weight, or making more money? Would we expect it to work? Of course not! It takes networking to get a job, exercise to lose weight, savy investing to make more money. So ladies, it's time to pray AND get to work if you want more dates in 2014 so you can find your man by next Christmas or sooner.
For my wonderfully talented sisters with naked ring fingers...
1) Be More Social & Play The Numbers- Men have this figured out to a science. The most practical way to meet a great mate is to date as many women as humanly or financially possible. Here's why, you go out and get 7 women's number over the course of a month. Of the 7, 2 numbers are fake, 1 doesn't call you back and you are left with 4 women to converse with. Of that 4, 1 dated a friend of yours, 1 possesses a deal breaker (i.e., still involved with ex, too busy, smokes or hates smokers if you are one, etc.). Now you are left with 2 women in the dating cue.
Men repeat this process consistently until they find the ONE. I certainly did this because I wanted to get married and how can I meet, court, propose and marry my wife by sitting on my couch every weekend? However, back to the point of this blog. Ladies, I have a question for you that I pray liberates and empowers you?
Why can't women do this too? Meaning...simultaneously date as many men as needed to find the ONE.
Here's a secret...many women are doing this and having great results! They read The Ring Formula - just saying...
Others, however, are making their dating life too stressful by not positioning themselves in places to even getted flirted with or force dating one guy who you know is not a fit. What is force-dating? It's when a woman dates ONE man and tries to make him her everything or change him to suit her needs. He is her only option so she settles, gets upset when he is moving like a turtle and/or has no interest in marriage. Instead of adding another eligible bachelor like a man would, she saves herself for a man who has not asked or earned exclusivity. Other men approach but she shoots them down in case Mr. I-Have-A-Lot-of-Options comes to his senses.
This makes no logical sense! Why would you be exclusive to a man who is not yours? Ladies, it is 2014 and I am giving you permission to date more than one man. What is wrong with dinner on Friday with a doctor, movies on Saturday with a principal, and an after church brunch or walk in the park on Sunday with a cop who loves nature? Nothing, especially if you are not in a committed relationship which is the definition of SINGLE.
The power of OPTIONS is great! It produces healthy competition for your attention. Men like competition and expect a great woman to have multiple suitors. If we want you, we will court you at the highest quality to get rid of the lesser men in your life. Then once we think we are winning, we pull the final eliminator move: Ask for monogamy. "Be MY lady". I'll be direct, a woman with no other options invokes less chase. We expect a great woman to have options and don't view her negatively for entertaining multiple suitors (of course you must be classy and not having sex with randon guys). Most men who are ready to settle down don't expect you to have sex with them outside of a committed relationship so we naturally assume that you are saving yourself for your man anyway.
What am I saying, date as many nice men as you can until the one you like takes you off the market. Be exclusive when it is a fact not a hope.
So, ladies, be more social and get out of the house and meet as many men as possible! The more social you are, the more men you have a chance to attract and get asked on dates. Make no mistake about it, dating is a numbers game. The more work you put in, the greater your chance of getting dates that can lead to great options to find the ONE.
Praying and not being social is not going to produce maximum options but putting your faith to work will! Advertise your beauty to the best suitors consistently ladies and 2014 could be your most fruitful year ever! You deserve the results!
Pick up The Ring Formula if you haven't already and join my email list. I have some great events planned for you in 2014 already!
Tune in tomorrow for Part 2 which will blow your mind!