Dr. Alduan Tartt, licensed clinical psychologist and ordained minister, responds to the State of Dating Black Men Report in 2026 to bridge the gap between single men and single women. After more than a decade as a clinical psychologist working with professional women and the men they are trying to love, what I have found is not that Black men and Black women are incompatible — we are profoundly uncommunicating . We are speaking two different emotional languages, carrying two

Dr. Alduan Tartt, licensed clinical psychologist and minister, discusses three habits that couples should have as believers to improve marital success and decrease divorce rates. If you want a stronger relationship, don’t just say you both believe in God—practice your faith together. Harvard’s Human Flourishing Program highlighted a 14-year study showing that regular religious service attendance was associated with about a 50% lower risk of divorce. That should get every co

Dr. Alduan Tartt, licensed clinical psychologist and minister helps men and women to best attract a future spouse by building self-concept and following God's plan for finding a husband or wife. Your List Is Blocking the Man God Has For You You have been praying for him. You have been preparing for him. But what if the very list you have been using to find him is the reason you keep missing him? Most single women have spent years refining their checklist — his height, his inc

Dr. Alduan Tartt describes how our brains can trick us into wanting relationships based on social comparison, lack of connection and/or patience. However, there are times when the pain is in tune with our actual need to be in relationships for our short and long-term happiness. If you've ever felt invisible during Valentine's Day, Christmas, or New Year's Eve while everyone else celebrated with someone special, you're not alone—and you're not broken. Holidays magnify what's m

Dr. Tartt provides three strategies for being more optimistic and positive in relationships and marriage. Choosing Hope: How Faith Changes Your Love Life In a world flooded with breakup stories, cynical dating advice, and constant disappointment, it's easy to lose faith in love. Maybe you've been burned before. Maybe you're watching good marriages around you crumble. Maybe you're tired of trying and wondering if healthy love is even possible anymore. But what if the problem i

Single ladies, if you’re getting ghosted after a first date, it’s often not because you aren’t attractive—it’s because the date quietly slipped into interview mode instead of connection mode . At all cost, avoid this question, "Tell me what you do for a living." For goodness sake, never ask about about how much money he makes, his credit score, what car he drives or even what part of town he lives in (if you are trying to assess his wealth). Men despise this question with a

Dr. Tartt, faith-based clinical psychologist, reveals the seven questions to ask men to see if they are good husband or boyfriend material based on research of successful couples. Single, successful, and still side-eyeing the group chat because another friend just got engaged? Meanwhile you’re meeting “great guys” who say all the right things… then disappear like a Wi-Fi signal in a Target parking lot. If you’ve ever thought, “Lord, I’m not asking for perfection—just a man w

If you feel like marriage-minded men are “hard to find,” this video flips the script: they aren’t hiding—you’re often just searching in the noisiest places (bars and swipe-heavy apps) that skew toward short-term attention, not long-term intention. The core message is simple: if you want a high-character, commitment-ready man, start looking where those men naturally invest their time—spaces that reward responsibility, consistency, and purpose. Think values-aligned communities,

Most couples think love and attraction are enough, but the real foundation of a healthy relationship is emotional safety . That’s the quiet confidence of, “I can tell you the truth and I won’t be punished or ignored. My heart is protected with you.” Without that, people start to shut down, hide how they really feel, and emotionally check out even if they’re still physically present. You can live in the same house and still feel alone when it’s not safe to be honest. The first

Dr. Alduan Tartt reveals three methods for resolving relationship conflict for couples. New Communication Habits That Bring More Peace and Less Drama in Relationships Most relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love. They fall apart because of how couples talk to each other. A small comment turns into a fight, a misunderstanding turns into silence, and a moment of stress leaves emotional damage that lingers. The issue usually isn’t what you’re talking about — it’