Dr. Alduan Tartt describes how our brains can trick us into wanting relationships based on social comparison, lack of connection and/or patience. However, there are times when the pain is in tune with our actual need to be in relationships for our short and long-term happiness. If you've ever felt invisible during Valentine's Day, Christmas, or New Year's Eve while everyone else celebrated with someone special, you're not alone—and you're not broken. Holidays magnify what's m

Dr. Tartt provides three strategies for being more optimistic and positive in relationships and marriage. Choosing Hope: How Faith Changes Your Love Life In a world flooded with breakup stories, cynical dating advice, and constant disappointment, it's easy to lose faith in love. Maybe you've been burned before. Maybe you're watching good marriages around you crumble. Maybe you're tired of trying and wondering if healthy love is even possible anymore. But what if the problem i

Single ladies, if you’re getting ghosted after a first date, it’s often not because you aren’t attractive—it’s because the date quietly slipped into interview mode  instead of connection mode . At all cost, avoid this question, "Tell me what you do for a living." For goodness sake, never ask about about how much money he makes, his credit score, what car he drives or even what part of town he lives in (if you are trying to assess his wealth). Men despise this question with a

Dr. Tartt, faith-based clinical psychologist, reveals the seven questions to ask men to see if they are good husband or boyfriend material based on research of successful couples. Single, successful, and still side-eyeing the group chat because another  friend just got engaged? Meanwhile you’re meeting “great guys” who say all the right things… then disappear like a Wi-Fi signal in a Target parking lot. If you’ve ever thought, “Lord, I’m not asking for perfection—just a man w

If you feel like marriage-minded men are “hard to find,” this video flips the script: they aren’t hiding—you’re often just searching in the noisiest places (bars and swipe-heavy apps) that skew toward short-term attention, not long-term intention. The core message is simple: if you want a high-character, commitment-ready man, start looking where those men naturally invest their time—spaces that reward responsibility, consistency, and purpose. Think values-aligned communities,

Most couples think love and attraction are enough, but the real foundation of a healthy relationship is emotional safety . That’s the quiet confidence of, “I can tell you the truth and I won’t be punished or ignored. My heart is protected with you.” Without that, people start to shut down, hide how they really feel, and emotionally check out even if they’re still physically present. You can live in the same house and still feel alone when it’s not safe to be honest. The first

Dr. Alduan Tartt reveals three methods for resolving relationship conflict for couples. New Communication Habits That Bring More Peace and Less Drama in Relationships Most relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love. They fall apart because of how couples talk to each other. A small comment turns into a fight, a misunderstanding turns into silence, and a moment of stress leaves emotional damage that lingers. The issue usually isn’t what you’re talking about — it’

Dr. Alduan Tartt provides solutions for how men can better date strong, talented, Black women for better long-term relationship success. Three Changes Men Who Are Worth Your Time Make for Today’s Woman If you’re a Black woman winning in life—degrees, career, business, healing, faith—then you already know this: You didn’t do all this work just to come home to a man who’s intimidated by you. Most women in our community aren’t asking for perfection. You’re asking for partnership

Clinical psychologist and relationship expert explains three common reasons women are single and how to correct that with three simple adjustments. Here are three honest reasons you might still be single—told with love, like I’m talking to you across the table. Not to blame, but to give you power. 1) It’s not the “pee in the dating pool.” It’s your attraction strategy. I know it’s tempting to believe the whole pool is contaminated. But when you don’t intentionally signal valu

Dr. Alduan Tartt explains why we people please, set poor boundaries, and over give in relationships and provides solutions to get more...